12 step fellowship for adults who were children from dysfunctional homes

Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA)/Dysfunctional Families is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition program of men and women who grew up in dysfunctional homes.

ACA provides a safe, nonjudgmental environment that allows people to grieve childhoods and conduct an honest inventory of themselves and their family—so they may (i) identify and heal core trauma, (ii) experience freedom from shame and abandonment, and (iii) become their own loving parents.

The 14 Traits of an Adult Child, also known as The Laundry List, are shown below.  If you identify with any of these Traits, you may find a home in their Program. They welcome you.

  1. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
  2. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
  3. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.
  4. We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
  5. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
  6. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
  7. We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
  8. We became addicted to excitement.
  9. We confuse love and pity and tend to “love” people we can “pity” and “rescue.”
  10. We have “stuffed” our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
  11. We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
  12. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
  13. Alcoholism* is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics** and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
  14. Para-alcoholics** are reactors rather than actors.

Tony A., 1978

Their website includes the following features.

  • Explanations of the group - its background, principles and methods
  • Meeting Finder (In Person, Telephone and Online)
  • Free Pamphlets
  • Organization Information
  • Online Store

 

Contact Information

Phone: 310.534.1815

Highlights
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Adult Children of Alcoholics

The ACA Serenity Prayer...

God, grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change,
the courage to change the one I can,
and the wisdom to know that one is me.

Additional Features
Find a Meeting
Find a Meeting

ACA offers face to face, online and telephone meetings. 

 

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