COSLAA is a closed fellowship and not an intergroup with any sex addiction recovery group. COSLAA is the corresponding 12 step family group for SLAA, and is cooperative in referring sex addicted calls to that group. COSLAA reserves the right to screen newcomer calls to help match appropriate group assignment.
COSLAA offers a safe and confidential recovery fellowship for members who have been affected by another’s sexually addictive behaviors, such as visits to strip clubs, obsessive use of pornography, internet sex, voyeurism, phone sex, and serial infidelity.
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop living out a pattern of codependency to someone who is sexually addicted. They diligently protect members’ anonymity and they are self supporting through our own contributions. They are not affiliated with any other organizations, movements, or causes, and we are neither religious nor secular.
They believe that sex and love addiction is a family illness. By looking at their own attitudes and behaviors, they can find a new way of life that will allow us to be happier. They do this by practicing the 12 steps and traditions of COSLAA, defining their own bottom lines in dealing with the disease, and developing a relationship with a power greater than themselves.
Sobriety means the recovering member’s bottom lines in dealing with the disease of sexual addiction and one’s codependent behaviors to that addiction. Coming into the program the newcomer carries the wounds of betrayal and abandonment as a victim. Working the program means a process of working step one to detach from the addict’s behavior and begin to “get current” and talk about their own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. They let go of illusions of causing, controlling, or curing the sex and love addict. They turn the focus on self-care, self-responsibility, and healing using the 12 steps and 12 traditions of COSLAA. They come to recognize what feels healthy, “sober,” in our day to day living. They grow to turn over our codependent ways over to a Higher Power, whether it be “group wisdom” or other spiritual source greater than oneself.